Sexual dysfunction. What comes to mind? Usually erectile dysfunction or maybe premature ejaculation. Female sexual dysfunction tends to go unquestioned. At most it seems to be believed that the inability to reach orgasm is the only sexual dysfunction women might have to deal with.
However, that isn't the case.
I soon learned this after nearly a month of a lagging libido. On a night out of town, I dragged myself out of my sexually-deprived shell and began foreplay. As my partner reached below my waist it was almost seconds before my body shook with a pleasure so intense it was almost painful. I pulled back, finished but honestly dissatisfied, not really feeling like continuing. It was until a similar experience happened while alone with a certain A. N. Roquelaure novel, only two pages in that I began to wonder what was wrong.
I began my search on Google with search phrases such as "quick sudden orgasm", "female sudden orgasm", and finally "premature female orgasm". The results were not helpful. At the very most was a post on how scientists have done a study that there is evidence that women suffer premature orgasms as well, and that they are beginning to look into causes. At the very least were forum postings from women suffering such things. The responses were appallingly similar. Most find that it's not a problem; it's been compared to men complaining about having large penises and anybody complaining about being "too pretty." That was if I could sift past the posts on premature ejaculation and "How to Get Her to Orgasm Faster!"
I can assure you, it isn't a treat to have a sudden orgasm, only moments into the act. When you try to continue, you're too sensitive to keep going, disappointing you and your partner. It's not really much of a climax if there's no real build up.
It can cause a real strain on your relationship. Orgasms can be a great stress relief, but it's all the work that goes into it that really pays off. Without that, stress and tension can build up in the relationship. There can feel like there's an imbalance in the bedroom, one party getting more pleasure than the other. Not to mention, sometimes you need that alone time with yourself to really feel comfortable in your own body. You can't be happy if you can't even satisfy yourself.
Even with the internet, there's not a lot of resources for women to solve this problem. Men have pills and advice columns and specialists dedicated to help them from prematurely ejaculating, but it's hard to get help as a female without being scoffed at.
The female body has long been neglected in science's eyes. Our anatomy and our orgasms have been haphazardly labelled and only recently has our sexuality been taken seriously. I mean, there is still debate on whether or not we have a G-Spot.
It is time that the female body stops being seen as a mysterious entity, unexplainable and incomprehensibly complex, and have credence given to our issues.
